>I do not expect men to stop protecting one another overnight.
But I do believe survivors are done protecting the silence that allowed this culture to exist.
And when we refuse to keep quiet—when we continue to name what happened in hotel rooms and in boardrooms and in movements we believed in—the men who depended on that silence will have to answer for it.
Remote-Letterhead844 on
Females are taught from a young age to behave as if they are being hunted/preyed upon at all times.
To be cordial & polite, for fear that someone (usually a man) may harm them.
I have always heard the statistic that 1 in 3 women have been SA-ed. I suspect that may be 1 in 2. Almost every woman I have spoken with nowadays, has had that experience.
This is a man problem that requires man solution. If ya’ll haven’t noticed, women are grouping together for safety and raising their young.
Men need to hold their own accountable and believe women. Period.
whoismico on
This makes me think of something I heard that completely rewired my brain — your values are meaningless if they only live in your head
…and to a *major* extent, they’re also meaningless if they only exist in your words and not your actions too
resistelectrique on
Written before the 62 million academy news as well.
Such_Detective_6709 on
Men will not like this.
Curiosities on
I wish any of these things coming out were even remotely surprising. And the fact that we have to continue to navigate well it’s not all men and all of that as another type of fawning for safety.
mlg1981 on
I choose:
DrForresterIsRipped on
The shitty men defence club about to descend on this post.
Objective_Quiet_751 on
I genuinely don’t think men have any idea how prevalent the abuse is. Or maybe they do and they don’t care and/or they’re complicit. I’m a CSA survivor and apparently not typically “male” in my relationships, women say I’m like a woman in my intimacy. May sound like a humble brag but it’s caused a lot of self-doubt and identity crises. Anyway, there is a related point coming…
Women tell me what my male peers are actually like behind closed doors and I’m not sure many other men experience the level of disclosure I do. I’m from a fairly small town and *dozens* of men my age have raped and beaten women I’ve known as friends/lovers. These men are often gregarious, popular, and even espouse some version of my own “I’m not like the other guys” spiel above.
It feels fucking *hopeless*. What am I supposed to do other than cut the rapists out of my life, warn others where appropriate, then inevitably watch them flourish anyway? I could go to the cops with a long list of local abusers but we all know how that would play out. Very few, if any, would ever face justice. I honestly struggle to live with it and feel quite powerless. I’m not really sure what I actually *can* do as a man with the crushing knowledge that men rape with near impunity. It’s not just the powerful and the wealthy, it’s fucking *everywhere*.
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Great read on a long-standing, worsening problem:
>I do not expect men to stop protecting one another overnight.
But I do believe survivors are done protecting the silence that allowed this culture to exist.
And when we refuse to keep quiet—when we continue to name what happened in hotel rooms and in boardrooms and in movements we believed in—the men who depended on that silence will have to answer for it.
Females are taught from a young age to behave as if they are being hunted/preyed upon at all times.
To be cordial & polite, for fear that someone (usually a man) may harm them.
I have always heard the statistic that 1 in 3 women have been SA-ed. I suspect that may be 1 in 2. Almost every woman I have spoken with nowadays, has had that experience.
This is a man problem that requires man solution. If ya’ll haven’t noticed, women are grouping together for safety and raising their young.
Men need to hold their own accountable and believe women. Period.
This makes me think of something I heard that completely rewired my brain — your values are meaningless if they only live in your head
…and to a *major* extent, they’re also meaningless if they only exist in your words and not your actions too
Written before the 62 million academy news as well.
Men will not like this.
I wish any of these things coming out were even remotely surprising. And the fact that we have to continue to navigate well it’s not all men and all of that as another type of fawning for safety.
I choose:
The shitty men defence club about to descend on this post.
I genuinely don’t think men have any idea how prevalent the abuse is. Or maybe they do and they don’t care and/or they’re complicit. I’m a CSA survivor and apparently not typically “male” in my relationships, women say I’m like a woman in my intimacy. May sound like a humble brag but it’s caused a lot of self-doubt and identity crises. Anyway, there is a related point coming…
Women tell me what my male peers are actually like behind closed doors and I’m not sure many other men experience the level of disclosure I do. I’m from a fairly small town and *dozens* of men my age have raped and beaten women I’ve known as friends/lovers. These men are often gregarious, popular, and even espouse some version of my own “I’m not like the other guys” spiel above.
It feels fucking *hopeless*. What am I supposed to do other than cut the rapists out of my life, warn others where appropriate, then inevitably watch them flourish anyway? I could go to the cops with a long list of local abusers but we all know how that would play out. Very few, if any, would ever face justice. I honestly struggle to live with it and feel quite powerless. I’m not really sure what I actually *can* do as a man with the crushing knowledge that men rape with near impunity. It’s not just the powerful and the wealthy, it’s fucking *everywhere*.
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