I thought that was the entire point of the movie lol, it’s nice to have it reiterated though I suppose! I think I’m more annoyed at articles using terms like “mic drop moment” 🤦♀️
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Carolina_Blues on
She’s not wrong. Society, at least in the US, does not support mothers
We don’t have mandatory paid maternity leave and some places maternity leave is only 6 weeks and you’re lucky if you’re not still bleeding by then. Childcare is ridiculously expensive and most daycares won’t let your child start until they’re 3 months old, which is incompatible with maternity leave or lack thereof. There’s a lack of flexible schedule for mothers, all the unpaid labor we do (my maternity leave so far has been so much harder than anything I do at my job and it’s not valued). There also just so much mom shaming that goes on, it’s exhausting
FlatVegetable4231 on
The only thing that I think needs clarification, is that it could sound like school is childcare. No, it is for education and should not be viewed as childcare.
IlexAquifolia on
My kid was home from daycare yesterday due to a snowstorm-related closure. I was reluctant to use PTO because I am hoarding it in anticipation of needing it when my second child is born in August, as well as the slight stigma of having to always ask for kid-related accommodations (like working from home when he’s sick) as the only person in-office with a young child. My husband and I both work full time so we traded off trying to get things done while keeping an antsy toddler entertained, but it was impossible to do both successfully. And then there was the added challenge of being a mother is also being a default parent – the assumption that we both automatically make that I should be the one to put my work on hold first, the fact that my kid asks ME for everything he wants even when dad is RIGHT THERE, and the pervasive guilt of failing to do two impossible things at the same time.
Society is still structured on the assumption that only one parent works. The only reason why families with two working parents continue to function is largely because mothers sacrifice their own time, energy, and health in order to keep the machine running.
Clara_Geissler on
So true. So stop please to prise calebrities who are able to be mothers and have a carreer as well just because they have the money to buy babysitter, house cleaner and chefs. Thank you.
AdhesivenessFar5588 on
This is such a lukewarm take. I don’t know why we’re praising someone for basic media comprehension.
braumbles on
Her transformation is crazy. I legit forget this is the same person from uncut gems.
PrincessDonut02 on
Thank you!!! I watched this last night and was so annoyed at some of the comments on discussion threads turning this into a “she’s a terrible person and her own worst enemy” movie. Does she make some bad decisions? Yes. But she is a mother that is working full time, taking care of a child with disordered eating (not just picky eating) in the morning and night, administering medicine, obviously taking all the phone from doctors/landlord/contractor etc. She’s doing EVERYTHING. Alone. And her husband is constantly criticizing her for not doing it better or differently while he’s out enjoying time off at a baseball game. Yes, he’s in the military and “can’t come home.” That is no excuse for him very obviously leaving everything to his wife to deal with.
Even the family group she attends fails the mothers. The group leader tells them that thinking it’s their fault their child is ill…is bad for their children. So even this group that is meant to support the mothers, ends up being about the kids. Could she have made some better choices? Sure. But this woman has been doing everything on her own for God knows how long by the time the movie occurs. If someone’s take away from this was that she’s a terrible person etc….it just proves why we need more stories like this one.
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I thought that was the entire point of the movie lol, it’s nice to have it reiterated though I suppose! I think I’m more annoyed at articles using terms like “mic drop moment” 🤦♀️
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She’s not wrong. Society, at least in the US, does not support mothers
We don’t have mandatory paid maternity leave and some places maternity leave is only 6 weeks and you’re lucky if you’re not still bleeding by then. Childcare is ridiculously expensive and most daycares won’t let your child start until they’re 3 months old, which is incompatible with maternity leave or lack thereof. There’s a lack of flexible schedule for mothers, all the unpaid labor we do (my maternity leave so far has been so much harder than anything I do at my job and it’s not valued). There also just so much mom shaming that goes on, it’s exhausting
The only thing that I think needs clarification, is that it could sound like school is childcare. No, it is for education and should not be viewed as childcare.
My kid was home from daycare yesterday due to a snowstorm-related closure. I was reluctant to use PTO because I am hoarding it in anticipation of needing it when my second child is born in August, as well as the slight stigma of having to always ask for kid-related accommodations (like working from home when he’s sick) as the only person in-office with a young child. My husband and I both work full time so we traded off trying to get things done while keeping an antsy toddler entertained, but it was impossible to do both successfully. And then there was the added challenge of being a mother is also being a default parent – the assumption that we both automatically make that I should be the one to put my work on hold first, the fact that my kid asks ME for everything he wants even when dad is RIGHT THERE, and the pervasive guilt of failing to do two impossible things at the same time.
Society is still structured on the assumption that only one parent works. The only reason why families with two working parents continue to function is largely because mothers sacrifice their own time, energy, and health in order to keep the machine running.
So true. So stop please to prise calebrities who are able to be mothers and have a carreer as well just because they have the money to buy babysitter, house cleaner and chefs. Thank you.
This is such a lukewarm take. I don’t know why we’re praising someone for basic media comprehension.
Her transformation is crazy. I legit forget this is the same person from uncut gems.
Thank you!!! I watched this last night and was so annoyed at some of the comments on discussion threads turning this into a “she’s a terrible person and her own worst enemy” movie. Does she make some bad decisions? Yes. But she is a mother that is working full time, taking care of a child with disordered eating (not just picky eating) in the morning and night, administering medicine, obviously taking all the phone from doctors/landlord/contractor etc. She’s doing EVERYTHING. Alone. And her husband is constantly criticizing her for not doing it better or differently while he’s out enjoying time off at a baseball game. Yes, he’s in the military and “can’t come home.” That is no excuse for him very obviously leaving everything to his wife to deal with.
Even the family group she attends fails the mothers. The group leader tells them that thinking it’s their fault their child is ill…is bad for their children. So even this group that is meant to support the mothers, ends up being about the kids. Could she have made some better choices? Sure. But this woman has been doing everything on her own for God knows how long by the time the movie occurs. If someone’s take away from this was that she’s a terrible person etc….it just proves why we need more stories like this one.